How To Deal With Growing Spiritually While Your Partner Is Not

My awakening started in the year of 2011 when I began to research metaphysics, ancient history, alternative science, and all of that fun stuff.  As I began practice meditation and dive deeper into my studies, I found myself in a strange place because the person who meant the most to me at the time was not growing with me.

It can be difficult coming to a higher understanding of yourself and your life when your own partner is indifferent.  Before we look at how to deal with this, it’s important to keep a few things in mind.

“Spiritual growth” has nothing to do with the knowledge, and everything to do with wisdom.  Communication, compassion, understanding, emotional intelligence, honesty, and transparency lie at the heart of spiritual development.  Believing in aliens, channeling, channels, crystal healing, chakras, or the afterlife will certain expand your mind and influence the way you look at life, but I think we can all agree that this information is useless unless it impacts our behaviour and changes the state of our heart and mind.

Keeping in mind that spiritual growth has nothing to do with what we believe and everything to do with the state of our consciousness and heart, it helps us look at our partners from a more grounded perspective.  Let’s go over 4 ways to deal with growing spiritually while your partner.

The best thing to do is allow your spiritual maturity to translate it into wisdom, understanding, and positive energy within the relationship.  Keep love and acceptance as the source of your interactions with them, as opposed to judgment, expectation or resentment for not being for not being the way you want them to be.

 

Not everyone is going to believe what you believe, and not everyone cares to experience the same things you want to experience.  Understanding this and releasing yourself from expectation will prevent yourself a lot of tension within the relationship.  Your relationship should remain as you guys loving and appreciating each other as souls, as opposed to you trying to force them to change by imposing your philosophies on to them.

Bring them out to a hot yoga class.  Teach them how to meditate in a forest with you.  Listen to “The Power of Now” audio book by Eckhart Tolle in the car together.  Watched a spiritually themed movie or documentary together.  Discuss some of the things you have been learning and ask their opinion on it.

Every human soul longs to feel alive, and if you have the knowledge and wisdom to know how to improve the life of your partner, you have a moral responsibility to introduce them to things that will benefit with them.  Nobody wants to be cranky, close-minded, or bored with life.  Maybe deep down, they are intrigued with your recent growth but are just too ashamed or embarrassed to ask for direction.

If you keep love as the foundation and don’t look down on them, you will be amazed at how receptive they are to the new spiritually themed ideas and experiences you want to share with them. How can you be frustrated that they aren’t growing spiritually with you if you aren’t making an effort to facilitate that growth? It’s like being mad at a seed for not growing when you refuse to water it.